Unreal

It’s unfathomable, the depth of grief that the parents and families of victims must be feeling right now… My heart and prayers go out to all those with broken hearts and empty arms. I am so grateful to have my own children safe and sleeping in their beds tonight.

I need it so bad….

I’ve been there.  I know how amazing it can feel after a good playtime session, a spanking, plus whatever else….  I know how stress relieving it can be, how relaxing it can feel, how it can make you feel like you’re glowing.  Omg, I need it so bad right now.  I really really want it…

Now, how to communicate it to Brad, in a way the works?  I’m so hot for it I could explode.

I’ve tried to umm… handle it myself.  But relieving the pressure only bring back more.

I need some dominance in my life with a capital D

where I’ve been

So I kind of felt guilty after reading one of Bonnie’s brunches…. the one about bloggers disappearing without explanation.  I haven’t disappeared quite yet, but faded away -yeah.  I know I’ve been mostly vague as to what is going on with Brad and I, and that is mostly because it’s been not only very stressful and painful, but very personal.   It’s because things seem to be on mend that I feel I can be a little more open.

A couple years ago we dissolved dd from our relationship… there were multiple reasons, but it just wasn’t healthy for either of at that point.  I am not sure that we will ever have dd in our marriage again.  Fine with me, if it happens it will be a long road to hoe…. and I’m not interested in going back there now anyway.  If it happens in the future, it will be because I naturally become attracted to it again and know that we are in a good and healthy place to start again.  If it never happens, then it will be because it is not good for us.  This does not in any way, shape, or form mean that I am not interested in spanking or D/s…. that is still very much a huge part of me that I cannot imagine ever going away.  That is the only reason I still feel like I can continue with this blog.

As you probably know, Brad’s been dealing with back problems and restless leg syndrome for quite some time… back issues solved now, RLS we don’t really know…. What this means is that he’s been or some pain pill on and off, but mostly on, for about the past 7-8 years.  Several times it’s been out of control.  Most recently, very out of control… but we are on the right path, at least it seems so, right now, for recovery.  I never in a million years thought I would see this come to a full blown addiction, but that is what it came to, and let me tell you, it’s very scary.  I cannot speak for his side of it, I am not him… I know what he’s told me but this isn’t his blog so I am not going to go there… but I will speak for myself.  It is the most lonely, terrifying, painful, gut wrenching, craziest things to go through… not knowing if your marriage is going to last, not knowing what they are doing to their body, not knowing what you will do or how your kids will survive it if you marriage ends.  It feels like every option is a bad one.  You don’t know if they are telling you the true, when the next blindside is… are they even interested in you anymore.  I’ve learned that an addict can’t be interested in anyone or anything but themselves and their pills.  There’s mind games and manipulation and selfishness.  And it hurts a lot.

Well, I said things seem to be getting better… I’ve thought that before but I am crossing my fingers this time.  He’s seeing a substance abuse counselor, for the time being anyway.  That is major and I am really happy that he’s made that step.  He’s dramatically decreased the amount of pills he’s taking and the goal is get off completely.  At the end of the day, he still has an RLS problem, and we don’t know how that is going to be treated (most of the options have been explored already).  It’s not over until there is a good solution for that… he has to be able to sleep.  This is what the pain pill have been doing for him.  So we’ll see…..  But in the meantime, I am so relieved that he’s doing what he needs to do and proud of him for acknowledging the problem and doing something about it.

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And now here is the recipe for one of my most favorite desserts….552038

Chocolate Lava Cake

Ingredients

6 oz semi sweet baking chocolate

6 oz butter (diced and room temp)

3 eggs

1/2 cup sugar

1/3 cup flour

butter for ramekins

(I think the ramekins I use are 4 inch)

1. Preheat oven to 350 F

2. Melt chocolate on low flame in a double boiler.  Once melted take off heat.

3. Stir in diced butter until melted

4. In seperate bowl beat eggs and sugar until it starts to whiten

5. Stir in melted chocolate and then the flour

6. Butter 4 ramekins and pour in batter

7. Bake about 10 minutes

8. Tip over onto plate and serve (with vanilla ice cream)

This recipe is really easy but I only make it for special occasions.  It’s amazing!