How do you measure a year?


Opportunity or Burden?

Work is an opportunity, not a burden.

This was a point made on a very vanilla blog that I read.  He was actually talking about work, as in your job, and being thankful that you have an income.  It also applies to relationships,  and let’s face it, we all know relationships that are worth having will require some work from time to time.  Sometimes day to day.

When I think about my marriage, and the work involved,  the work that I can see that needs doing, it can seem overwhelming.  Do I really want to climb up this mountain?  Risk falling off the cliff?  Risk emotional injury, pain, and risk causing it for someone else?  Ummmm…. yes, I do.  Because he is worth it, we are worth it.  Because the days that feel like he doesn’t care are out numbered by the days that prove he does.  Because I am not as weak as I think I am.  Because I can survive hurt feelings and so can he.  Because if we work together, the risk is not so great, but the rewards will be.  It’s an opportunity for us to be better than we were before, not the burden of trudging through.

That was a little pep talk that I just gave myself   🙂

So thankful

There are a lot of things that can get on my nerves in my daily life.  Things that I sometimes struggle with or don’t handle so well.

Things like –

Why can I get out of the car in 6 seconds and it takes my daughter 6 minutes?

Why does she feel the need to take off her coat and shoes every time we get in the car?

Why does she wait until we are the furthest away from a bathroom in a store to tell me that she is about to pee in her pants NOW?

Why does my son have to challenge every little thing that I ask him to do?

Why does “go get dressed for school” sound like “go play with toys, or keep watching cartoons, or whatever else you feel like doing” to him?

Why does he repeatedly come up behind me and scare me when he knows he will get a very negative reaction?  

However – I am going to focus on the good stuff instead.  I am so thankful that –

I have two great kids who are healthy and happy (most of the time).

My black mood has been receding and I have lightened up considerably at home.  This, by the way, helps a lot with my relationship with Brad.

Brad and I are doing pretty well.

I can honestly say that I am pretty happy right now.

I have great friends, in real life and online.

I am almost completely ready for Christmas.  Almost.  Shopping is fun. Christmas is a great excuse to do a lot of it, but I will be happy to be done.

Someone in my family is going to have a baby soon.  I can’t wait to meet him.

I made something amazing for my Grandpa this year, I know he is going to love it.

Dried mangos. I get dried mangos from our local Trader Joe’s.  They have nothing added to them at all.   I have a serious addiction… they are so yummy.  I am very thankful that they exist.

I could go on but I won’t bore you.  I hope you are having an enjoyable holiday season as well.

The Great Online Cookie Exchange Extravaganza 2011

Look, the snow is back (if you are on my actual blog)!  I love the snow feature.  Anyway, this isn’t my own personal recipe or anything that I came up with but these are really big where I live.  They are usually only made around Christmas time.  If you like the chocolate and peanut butter combination, you will love these.  They are super yummy!



  • 1 1/2 cups peanut butter
  • 1 cup butter, softened
  • 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
  • 6 cups confectioners’ sugar
  • 4 cups semisweet chocolate chips


  1. In a large bowl, mix together the peanut butter, butter, vanilla and confectioners’ sugar. The dough will look dry. Roll into 1 inch balls and place on a waxed paper-lined cookie sheet.
  2. Press a toothpick into the top of each ball (to be used later as the handle for dipping) and chill in freezer until firm, about 30 minutes.
  3. Melt chocolate chips in a double boiler or in a bowl set over a pan of barely simmering water. Stir frequently until smooth.
  4. Dip frozen peanut butter balls in chocolate holding onto the toothpick. Leave a small portion of peanut butter showing at the top to make them look like Buckeyes. Put back on the cookie sheet and refrigerate until serving.

To get some more amazing recipes check out all the other participants!

Another Suburban Mom
Ashly Star
Jack & Jill
His wyld rose
Infidelity Chronicles
Linda Long
Little Monkey
Naughty Kitty
selkie (her recipe here, her blog here)
Sephani Page
striving for peace
Tempting Sweets
The Missus