Here is the second worksheet if you are interested. It’s very easy, all you are going to do is transfer answers from the first.
This sheet is titled “Unconscious Relationship Agenda”
#1 I am trying to find and/or get a spouse who will be:
Here you will list the positive traits you circled from section A (page 1)
#2 But I won’t really fall in love unless he/she also has at least some of these traits
Here you list the circled traits from section B
3. In my marriage/relationship I will struggle to get my spouse/partner to have only the positive traits so that I can finally get an adult version of
Insert unmet needs from section C
4. In my marriage/relationship I will sometimes tend to stop myself from getting these needs met by doing an adult version of these behaviors.
Insert responses from third column of section D
This worksheet, especially 3 and 4 really helped me see the cyclical pattern of my frustrations. Also, I can see why I react/overreact so strongly when I feel like the things I need so badly are threatened. Even if it’s just my perception. I don’t know how much help it is in the moment, as I am currently in the midst of overreacting to something. I can’t seem to talk myself out of it.