Once upon a time I was able to move seamlessly through a spanking involving more than one purpose. As always, sexual thoughts are not far off for Brad, he can’t seem to keep his hands off the rest of me regardless what kind of spanking. For a long time I didn’t mind these things: sex immediately following punishment spankings, sex mixed in with maintenance, play time letting warnings sneak in, or maybe venting of feelings, maintenance and play mixed…. I learned to get used to it, accept it as part of our system, and adapt as I needed to. Due to the emotional upheaval lately I have become rather uncomfortable with this type of arrangement. It’s not that I don’t have a sense for what is going on at any given time, but for me right now to have serious “you need to….” talks during a spanking, and then 2 seconds later sexual stuff going on, it’s creating a guessing game that has my mind spinning in circles. I don’t want to not know what is going on, what’s coming next, or wonder whether we are on the same page. At the least it is unpredictable and at the worst creates an untrustworthy enviroment. DD is still on hold for us too, which made the other night confusing, but we have since cleared that up. I don’t think that Brad is doing this knowingly, it’s just a bad pattern that we’ve allowed to develop. So here’s the deal. I don’t mind going from one thing to another usually, but I need to know where the lines are. If it’s going to be a maintenance spanking, a here’s what’s going to happen if you don’t get this done tomorrow spanking, a punishment spanking, or play/sexual spanking, then let’s say it and let’s be purposeful about it. At least make sure we are on the same page, I don’t want to guess at what is going on.